Newspaper columnist and author Erma Bombeck once humorously advised parents to never lend a vehicle to anyone to whom they've given birth. If only life could be that simple. Most parents don't find deflating the tires and locking away the keys from their teen driver a feasible approach and will eventually let their teen driver borrow the car.
Just because you've decided to let your teen get behind the wheel doesn't mean that you want to hand the keys over haphazardly. There are several things that you can do to prepare your child and help relieve some of the uneasiness you might feel.
1. Enroll in a motor club.
One of the most important features is that the emergency roadside service you pick offers 24/7 roadside assistance. Your teen will then be able call for professional help whenever he/she might need it. You may also consider asking your motor club if they offer emergency roadside services for when your teen is riding in a friend's car.
2. Have a candid conversation with your teen about driving.
You'll never know your teen's knowledge and attitude about driving if you don't talk to them. Although the graphic details of what can happen when speed limits, stop signs, signal lights, and roadwork cautions are ignored might not be fun topics, it's important for kids to know the consequences of their driving actions.
You'll also want to establish ground rules for using the car, such as how many passengers will be allowed, what time it should be returned, and where it can and can't be taken. Keep in mind that some state laws will dictate the answers to some of these questions.
Another topic of discussion should be drinking and driving. No parent wants to believe that their sweet and levelheaded child would be the type to drive intoxicated, but the reality is that even good kids can be foolish or succumb to peer pressure. Make it clear that you'll have zero tolerance for both drinking and driving -and- riding with someone else drinking alcohol. At the same time, you'll want your teen to know beyond a doubt that they can call you anytime they get into a bad situation and you'll be there to come pick them up.
3. Purchase a global positioning system.
A GPS is a device that you can install to apprise you on the location of your vehicle and teen. You will establish a radius of operation for the device. The GPS will alert you if the teen takes the vehicle outside of your set radius, is driving the vehicle beyond their curfew, and if they break the speed limit.
4. Purchase a speed-monitoring device.
This device, also called a governor, restricts the fuel injection of the vehicle. This restriction prevents the vehicle from going over a certain speed. In addition to standard GPS and governor devices, there are also much more expensive high-tech options like tiny on-board drive cams that capture risky driving behaviors on video.
If you feel like you're being intrusive, just keep in mind that NHTSA data shows the crash rates for drivers between 16 and 17 years of age are nine times that of an adult driver. As your teen driver becomes a more experienced driver and develops safe driving habits, you can always reconsider your approach.